Monday, November 8, 2010

In REALITY most ugly ducklings stay UGLY!!!

As you all know, i cant stop playing Katy Perry's latest album. The song "Not like the Movies" is great, i really like it and can actually relate a little, due to my many failed relationships. But apart from that the song is irritating. She's basically saying that when you find your better half it should be "just like the movies", "cinematic and dramatic". ;-/ The line i find most annoying is "Snow White said when i was young, one day my prince will come so i wait for that date"!!! Really lol well looks like Snow was a big fat liar wasn't she!!

Now, if you're at all anything like me, you didn't spend your childhood watching movies like Snow White, Sleeping Beauty and Cinderella.
I never bought into these Fairy Tales, even though i have read and watched most of them. I hated those "perfect, romantic" love scenes and listening to the princesses sing about finding their prince, being saved and living happily ever after. Because (1) I hate musicals and (2) It was always the same kind of scenario, princess in trouble, prince comes and saves her from the bad guy, and then they live "happily ever after". BORING!!! One i do remember reading more than once, is Pocahontas, this one i liked better than the rest because the ending was different, she didn't end up with her prince, he had to leave her. I thought it was great but then they ruined it for me with a part 2, where he went back for her. & the rest was BLAHHhhhhh!!!
Fairy Tales annoyed me from an early age because i've always been a pessimist! And a sceptic, i often wondered why there were never any endings with the princess saving the prince or being self sufficient enough to save herself!!!

Based on "Not like the movies" and other songs like it, it is evident that Fairy tales give girls a sense of false hope and self!! They embed in us an idea that the perfect man is supposed to one day come and rescue us from our pitiful lives. And when it doesn't happen we kill ourselves wondering what the hell went wrong. This is all true. However, not to be a complete Debby Downer, i will agree that on the flip side, fantasies do give us something to believe in, which is lacking these days. They encourage us to use our imagination and help us to practice some kind of faith by believing in things that are real but cannot be proven or seen.

With that said ...... back to my point...... In real life there isn't always a prince or a happy ending!! What most of you don't know is that "Disney" is a liar!!!! The the original stories are far from romantic.
Sleeping Beauty was a rape victim, Cinderella was a murder, Rapunzel escaped using her own wits, the Little Mermaid became sea foam! Trust me i could go on. I've done my research. Disney has cleaned up these tales and changed the endings to avoid dealing with the harsh realities that the originals addressed, which has perpetuated the stereotypes and false realities and SADLY this is actually what pleases the populace. Which is even better for Hollywood, that means more $$$$$ which is all they really care about!!
Don't get it twisted, i really don't mean to sound anti Disney because in truth, i'm not, i still watch and enjoy the movies. I love Shrek.
What i'm against, is their encompassing influence on the modern knowledge of fairy tales. Their versions create too many misconceptions for children. Life isn't black and white, There isn't always a princess in need of saving, bad guys and good guys are never even the least bit defined. Although it would be nice if they were!! Hhmm

All Fairy tales were created to send a message and i can appreciate that. Most of the time the message being that, you should always hope for the best, work hard, believe in yourself and you can achieve your dreams. But what they leave out is that you can only get what life is willing to offer & that "LIFE" can be pretty shitty......therefore expect shit!!! And if you want to pretend that it isn't shit & that it doesn't stink, you are an idiot not an optimist. There is no point in hoping for something you know you will never achieve.

All i am saying is that fairy tales give some of us a skewered sense of reality which makes for bitter disillusioned adults. They build us up to knock us down.
Its best to create your own Fairy tales. Rely on your selves to make your happy endings. Be an optimistic realist!! One who sees that life is harsh but can be good, despite the worst circumstances!!!!! So even if the ugly duckling doesn't become a beautiful swan in the end, life goes on, make the best of it.
Your life will never be perfect, you won't find the perfect man, he doesn't exist, some of us will die alone so don't shoot for happily ever after, getting to "ever after" is hard enough!!   BUT
Before you hang yourselves.......i didn't say the perfect ending is impossible to find.......what i said is that its ALMOST impossible!!!
Someone once told me, not to look for the perfect someone but the someone you can have something close to perfect with.
This i already knew but was happy to hear it from an adult, even if she was just bitter and alone!!
                                                                                       Stiff Upper Lip xxx


  1. You said it 'Best' :)
    True: a happily ever after is almost impossible. I say work hard at your happily ever after if that is what you so desire!! In reality, it is us women who save these men from their 'tragic endings' sometimes' >> so give yourself a lil' tap on the shoulder :)

  2. Exactly babe!! We save them most of the time. & these tales make us look helpless!!

    &&& what if the princess wants to be saved -not by a prince -but rather by another princess!! Although 2 princes would make for better laughs!! :)
    That story would be inappropriate lol but great for this day and age, its 2010!

  3. What happened to the real Sleeping Beauty. What put her to sleep? A date rape drug?

  4. Well that part is kind of the same- In the original - She fell asleep because an evil fairy pricked her on the finger with a spinning wheel.

    But here's the twist!!!
    When the prince arrived "to save her", he fell in lust, not "love" with sleeping beauty. He raped her. She got pregnant, and while – still sleeping – gave birth to twins. The twins crawled out of her and fed from her. During one feeding, one of the babies accidentally sucked on a finger instead of a breast, and sucked out the splinter of wood under her fingernail. & thats how the curse was broken. She woke up && the prince in shinning tin foil was nowhere to be found!! lol

  5. It is not about it begging untrue an untold. But one has to look at life and see it is not a fairy tail. We all know this, but the point for all these generic and romantic story line is not to make one happy but to image what life would be like to live in a world where the prince saves the day and love is not broken. In my opinion watching these movies don't help the viewers but keep them happy and wondering what if there the lonely princess or the heroic prince. On the other hand they are awful to watch we all know that and also we all know how its going to end even before it begins. That's the beauty of it all at the end of the day.